On this journey that I have been on over the past couple of months, I have been trying to find myself, figure out what my purpose is, figure out what makes me happy, and LEARN how to be and stay positive. Yes, LEARN how to be positive.
It is VERY easy to see the negative in everything and everyone. Sometimes we don’t even have to go looking for it, it is right there….EVERYDAY….ALL THE TIME…..HOWEVER, it is our job to LEARN to see the positive. Seeing and finding the positive in EVERYTHING is NOT easy. Sometimes it is just down right hard! Quite honestly, sometimes you just don’t want to do it! And so once again we need to look through our new set of glasses so that we can see things differently, even when it is hard, when you know its going to get harder, and when it is at it hardest. It’s a journey ~ remember.
I think sometimes we don’t realize how much we are seeing and finding the negatives in every situation. It is very easy to just say what we see or think and listen to what we’ve heard. So it is going to take much effort, effort that you sometimes won’t feel like taking, in order to see beyond the negative. This is often very hard for me. I have really been trying to see the positive things in others and in the situations that I am in. Which, believe me, IS NOT EASY!
If you find yourself, or if I find myself, being negative, I just think … nobody is perfect and that tomorrow is another day. Wake up and start fresh!
If you are seeing the negative aspects in others, chances are you are seeing the negatives in yourself too. I know I do. No matter how many times, or how often someone gives me a compliment, or I think I am doing something good I still look for and see negatives because thats what I do. This is a learning process. NOTHING happens over night!
In order to be positive and see the positives in others, you need to be positive and see the positives in yourself. Seeing the positives in yourself is DIFFICULT!! In the morning I think about how the day is going to go and how I might respond or react to people and situations that I will encounter. That way I will already have my mind prepared to be thinking positive. I have to SET my mind! Thinking positive starts FIRST THING IN THE MORNING! If you are negative right off the bat, go back to bed and get out on the other side! It doesn’t do anyone any good to start the day in a bad mood, and believe me, this, sometimes IS NOT EASY!!! Even starting the day in a good mood with positive thoughts doesn’t mean the day is going to move on without hiccups or that it will end on a positive note, but at least your whole day won’t be a waste.
Think before you speak. Right now, this is NOT something that I do very well. I am not good a biting my tongue. I want others to know what I am thinking, how I feel, and I want to have the last word…always. I know this is not okay, but like I have said before…this is a work in progress and it very well could take a very long time to work on this issue. It is by far the worst part about who I am.
Sometimes you have people that hurt you, intentionally or unintentionally. Some say you need to forgive and forget, or give them another chance, or that wasn’t really them talking, or they will do better next time……Whatever the case, it wasn’t okay for them to hurt you. Yes, and I know when I don’t bite my tongue I am hurting too, but it is my emotions reacting to the situation. Self control. That is what I need. People often hurt you so much that it becomes a way of life, for them as well as for you. Relationships are about balance. You give some, you take some…They should not be one sided. One sided relationships will never work, no matter how hard you try.
When you get the chance, and I hope that all hurting people get the chance at some point, you need to sit back and reflect on the situation, on the person, on your life. What makes you really happy? What has made you happy in the past? When you were happy, who was in your life then? Maybe they need to come back into your life, or maybe the situation that you are in has changed so much that your happiness can no longer include that person for whatever reason. Maybe it was a choice that they made or what you have decided to do that has made the situation different. Did you have hobbies that you no longer do that made you happy? Have people crossed your path recently, or over the time that you have been hurting, that you would like to be around a little more often? Whatever the case, you need to do what is best for you, what makes you happy. When you are doing what is best for you and your soul, then you will be able to move forward in a more positive manner, for yourself as well as for your family.
Being positive will make you a stronger person and when you are a stronger person you will be a more positive person….
Negative people will not always be gone from your life. They will hang around for many reasons. Don’t let them continue to bring you down. Instead you should be trying to bring them up…as hard as it may be and even if they don’t want to hear it. You need to do it for you. After all, if they have to be around, you don’t want them dragging you back to a place you don’t want to be. You have worked to hard to get to where you are.
You can not have a POSITIVE life and a NEGATIVE mind ~ Joyce Meyer
One of the best, and easiest, things you can do each day is to SMILE. It helps you to stay positive and brings out the best in who you are.