Never Give Up

 It has been almost a year since I have written here.  The last I wrote, it was about thinking positive and making the best of every situation and about how hard life is. As the year went on my family and I learned just how hard and unfair life can be.  I have tried my best to stay positive, be supportive, and keep my chin up even the midst of all of the tragedy and heartache of the year.  I have learned that I am a strong person. Stronger than I ever knew that I could be.

Staying positive doesn’t mean that you are always happy or that you don’t have negative moments. It means you look for the silver lining, you keep looking forward, you set goals, you focus…….

These things are not easy to do when many days are spent just trying to get through the day or helping your family get through the day. People will often say “one day at a time, ” “day by day,” or “tomorrow is another day”…..I too say these things to myself, pretty much on a daily basis and I think …..How are you suppose to look forward, set goals, and focus when the days seems long and the nights are longer?  There are good days, days that seem shorter, days that all seems right, days that are not so bleak. Its  on those days when  I think about my goals, my future, my focus….and I remember that better days are ahead as long as we keep a positive outlook and remember to SMILE. Its that “looking forward” part that sometimes gets us stuck. It’s okay, you won’t be stuck forever if you look for the silver lining, set goals, SMILE, and focus, focus, focus!  Remember this is a journey and your new set of lenses will help you to see more clearly – bringing life, your journey, into focus.

A few of my favorite quotes and sayings:

My main focus is to stay focused

Focus on where you want to be, not where you were, or where you are.

When you focus on problems, you’ll have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, you’ll have more opportunities.

Being STRONG. What does that mean? How do we get strong? How do we stay strong?

Strong is a powerful word. It means that you are able to hold up to all of the trials and obstacles that are thrown at you. It means that no matter what you keep going, for yourself, for your family. It means you focus on the good and the next step. It means you are capable and relentless and you keep moving. You stay POSITIVE!

It is said that God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. He knows how strong we are and what we can handle. It’s not a question of how do we get strong. It is a question of how to we find our hidden strength. It’s already there or God wouldn’t have allowed your plate to get piled so high or your bowl to be running over.  Finding your strength is HARD!, but its there~ dig deep, breath, and find that SMILE 🙂

Finding that hidden strength is certainly hard, but staying strong can be even harder. This all leads back to the fear of the unknown.  How can we be strong and stay positive when we don’t know what is coming down the pike? We can be strong for a day but the next we feel week. Sometimes it doesn’t feel fair that we need to be the strong one all of the time. This is okay. There will be days that seem easier than others. On the harder days it’s okay to cry, take a nap, or binge watch your favorite show on netflix. Lean on your family and friends to help support you. You will be okay. The struggles are real and hard, but you are strong and resilient.

THINGS MAY NOT GO THE WAY YOU PLANNED, BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU LOSE HOPE.

STAY POSITIVE AND STAY FOCUSED

……and always remember to SMILE 🙂

 

Get out of bed on the RIGHT side

On this journey that I have been on over the past couple of months, I have been trying to find myself, figure out what my purpose is, figure out what makes me happy, and LEARN how to be and stay positive. Yes, LEARN how to be positive.

It is VERY easy to see the negative in everything and everyone. Sometimes we don’t even have to go looking for it, it is right there….EVERYDAY….ALL THE TIME…..HOWEVER, it is our job to LEARN to see the positive.  Seeing and finding the positive in EVERYTHING is NOT easy. Sometimes it is just down right hard! Quite honestly, sometimes you just don’t want to do it!  And so once again we need to look through our new set of glasses so that we can see things differently, even when it is hard, when you know its going to get harder, and when it is at it hardest.  It’s a journey ~ remember.

I think sometimes we don’t realize how much we are seeing and finding the negatives in every situation.  It is very easy to just say what we see or think and listen to what we’ve heard.  So it is going to take much effort, effort that you sometimes won’t feel like taking, in order to see beyond the negative.  This is often very hard for me.  I have really been trying to see the positive things in others and in the situations that I am in.  Which, believe me, IS NOT EASY!

If you find yourself, or if I find myself, being negative, I just think … nobody is perfect and that tomorrow is another day.  Wake up and start fresh!

If you are seeing the negative aspects in others, chances are you are seeing the negatives in yourself too.  I know I do.  No matter how many times, or how often someone gives me a compliment, or I think I am doing something good I still look for and see negatives because thats what I do.  This is a learning process. NOTHING happens over night!

In order to be positive and see the positives in others, you need to be positive and see the positives in yourself.  Seeing the positives in yourself is DIFFICULT!! In the morning I think about how the day is going to go and how I might respond or react to people and situations that I will encounter.  That way I will already have my mind prepared to be thinking positive. I have to SET my mind! Thinking positive starts FIRST THING IN THE MORNING! If you are negative right off the bat, go back to bed and get out on the other side!  It doesn’t do anyone any good to start the day in a bad mood, and believe me, this, sometimes IS NOT EASY!!! Even starting the day in a good mood with positive thoughts doesn’t mean the day is going to move on without hiccups or that it will end on a positive note, but at least your whole day won’t be a waste.

Think before you speak. Right now, this is NOT something that I do very well. I am not good a biting my tongue. I want others to know what I am thinking, how I feel, and I want to have the last word…always.  I know this is not okay, but like I have said before…this is a work in progress and it very well could take a  very long time to work on this issue.  It is by far the worst part about who I am.

Sometimes you have people that hurt you, intentionally or unintentionally. Some say you need to forgive and forget, or give them another chance, or that wasn’t really them talking, or they will do better next time……Whatever the case, it wasn’t okay for them to hurt you. Yes, and I know when I don’t bite my tongue I am hurting too, but it is my emotions reacting to the situation. Self control. That is what I need.  People often hurt you so much that it becomes a way of life, for them as well as for you. Relationships are about balance. You give some, you take some…They should not be one sided. One sided relationships will never work, no matter how hard you try.

When you get the chance, and I hope that all hurting people get the chance at some point, you need to sit back and reflect on the situation, on the person, on your life.  What makes you really happy? What has made you happy in the past?  When you were happy, who was in your life then? Maybe they need to come back into your life, or maybe the situation that you are in has changed so much that your happiness can no longer include that person for whatever reason.  Maybe it was a choice that they made or what you have decided to do that has made the situation different.  Did you have hobbies that you no longer do that made you happy?  Have people crossed your path recently, or over the time that you have been hurting, that you would like to be around a little more often? Whatever the case, you need to do what is best for you, what makes you happy. When you are doing what is best for you and your soul, then you will be able to move forward in a more positive manner, for yourself as well as for your family.

Being positive will make you a stronger person and when you are a stronger person you will be a more positive person….

Negative people will not always be gone from your life.  They will hang around for many reasons.  Don’t let them continue to bring you down.  Instead you should be trying to bring them up…as hard as it may be and even if they don’t want to hear it. You need to do it for you. After all, if they have to be around, you don’t want them dragging you back to a place you don’t want to be. You have worked to hard to get to where you are.

You can not have a POSITIVE life and a NEGATIVE mind ~ Joyce Meyer

One of the best, and easiest, things you can do each day is to SMILE.  It helps you to stay positive and brings out the best in who you are.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

LIFE….A JOURNEY….

Did you ever wonder what life is actually supposed to be like.  They say life is what you make it.  Is it really?  Is it what you make it or is it what others make of it for you?  How do we ever know what it is that we are supposed to be doing?  How do we know if what we are doing is right?  How do we know if the path we are on is the right one?  If it’s not the right one, will it lead us to a better, safer path or will it lead us to paths a little less traveled?  If we find ourselves on the path less traveled is that where we want to be or should we try to find our way back to a path that will lead us to an area that is more comfortable.  Are the paths that we choose habit or a matter of the heart?

In my experience…….The paths that we take are guided by the choices that we make and the people who are there with us for part or for all of our journey. These choices and people help determine our destination.  Not saying that our  destination is the right one, but just where our paths lead us to.

I am on a quest to find out  where my paths are leading me. Where my journey in life will take me.  What my purpose is.

The following is my most recent thoughts about “Life as a Journey”……

Sometimes people come into our lives, stay there forever and NEVER touch our hearts.

Sometimes people come into our lives, and are only there for a moment in time but they have touched our hearts in a way that make us wonder about the journey that we have been on. It makes you reevaluate your life and look at things through a new set of glasses.

LIFE  is a JOURNEY….

A JOURNEY into the UNKNOWN

A JOURNEY that is HARD

A JOURNEY that is UNFAIR

A JOURNEY that is UNPREDICTABLE

A JOURNEY that doesn’t always allow us to FEEL how or what we want or need

A JOURNEY that requires LOVE and DEDICATION even when it is hard

A JOURNEY where love COMES and GOES

Love often stays when you don’t want it to and goes when you need it the most

The same goes with friends

People come and go as the situation allows. Some are your forever friends who are always there no matter what and some come just at your lowest when you need a fresh ear and a new heart. They stay just long enough to help you realize what is important and what you need to do and then they are gone. When emotions get too much for them to handle and life is getting hard for them, their journey is finding another path.

The funny thing about paths are that they often start in the same place or they have a crossing point, for a time, but then split and go in all different directions. Directions unknown, unknown for all the people who started out the journey or became part of the journey. Eventually the paths come to an end. Sometimes they end together and sometimes they are miles apart.

It’s the impact of those times when the paths were together that will help you and guide you when they are no longer and you feel like your path, your journey, in life has no end to obstacles.

When all the paths of your life come to an end you sometimes find yourself in a place you did not expect. A place that has been helped, molded, and shaped by the people who have walked your path or crossed it at some point. These people, these friends, no matter how long they were with you on your path, have made an impact. An impact that helps you to guide the rest of your journey through life. No matter how hard that journey is or how easy the next path seems. The path always gets harder than it initially seems because it is unknown. It’s the fear of the unknown that we struggle with. It’s what makes the journey hard. But the path continues and once again is crossed by people who are with you on your journey, weather for a short time or for the remainder of the journey.

Be kind and love with all your heart because if you don’t your path to the end of the journey will be harder than it needs to be. No mater how hard it has been, or you think it has been, it could always be worse. Always try your best to enjoy the journey, life is hard enough.

SMILE always  🙂

Sometimes people cross our paths and then are gone only to reappear further on down the path. You see, even when paths take different directions there are always still places on the journey where they may cross again. And it very well could be just when you need them again. It doesn’t matter how many times, or how often paths cross and uncross on your journey, just know that those people are crossing again for a reason. Maybe this time they will walk the journey with you or maybe they are there for just another short moment in time. A moment that sets your mind and your heart in the right direction. A moment to make you ponder all that this journey of life is about.

And when the journey gets hard and the path you are on gets tough, remember those that are with you and those that have crossed for a little. Their words will echo in your head and your heart and help you get on with your current path or guide you to a new, safer path. If you listen closely you will hear them, hear their voice as if they were right next to you, hear all the sounds, tones, and accents that you love about them. Hear them telling you things that make you smile. Hear them telling you to never give up.

So as my journey through life continues, I pray that I will be able to see the signs and know the right path to take.  I pray that I will have people on my journey with me, even if only for a little, that will help guide me in a direction that will help me find my purpose.  

After all………………..

The only impossible journey is the one you never begin  ~Anthony Robbins 

 

 

TO BE CONTINUED…………